I was the girl who asked whether Esmé and Carmelita survived the fire. I wonder what you. make of his answer, and if the answer to the question is hidden in it? I personally believe that his answer meant that they did die in a canonical sense, but it doesn’t mean he has forgotten them, or they have no possibility of appearing in future books set prior to ASOUE.
I believe he quickly needed to adapt the answer to the most common question he is asked about ASOUE. He had to adapt the answer to the question: "Did the Baudelaires survive at the end of the books?" You will find that the answer he gave fits much more into that question. His question was surprising because he doesn't listen to it often. But at the same time, he had already decided that he would not give you clear answers, from the moment you started speaking. So he had to quickly resort to a ready answer to the question that came closest to him on the ready-made answer deck he had in mind.
If this subject really causes you distress, you have no choice but to write what you believe about it, and the reasons why you believe what you believe. And if you don't know what to believe, you need to read Lemony Snicket The Unauthorized Autobiography and then write down all the evidence you find on the subject. And then publish a text with your conclusions in Sardonic Series. They will be analyzed by people like me and Dante, and we will give our opinions on your research. And in turn, you can counter-argue or change your mind. Welcome to the life of Snicketiologist, I'm sorry for you. But we will be here to support you.
When I finished reading ASOUE for the first time, I convinced myself that Beatrice could be alive. This started a search that ended only in this year of 2020. (Of course, there were huge gaps in that search). But the anguish finally ended. I know how you feel. But this distress is not really a bad thing. It's like pepper. I like pepper very much, even though it burns. But that ardor releases endorphins in our bodies and makes the experience of eating pepper both painful and pleasant at the same time.