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Oct 28, 2003 21:40:45 GMT -5
Post by pixie ears on Oct 28, 2003 21:40:45 GMT -5
That is sad Woe, it doesn't matter, but a lot of teens/adults don't really listen to kids and don't care what they think.
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Oct 30, 2003 18:13:48 GMT -5
Post by katgrrl247 on Oct 30, 2003 18:13:48 GMT -5
That sounded really mean, Katrina whoever you are. Don't be that way. Yay! He actually does like me! I was so wrong. ^_^ But I think it really should make a big difference who you love, because you can't just flit from one love to the next, it has to go on for a long time to be really deep. Otherwise, it's either just a crush, or somewhere between a crush and love. It may have the potential to become love. Question: How long do you think you should have to know someone to be sure you love them? How long should you know someone to marry them? (Heheh, I've known my love for 2 years.)
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Nov 1, 2003 15:15:25 GMT -5
Post by Brian on Nov 1, 2003 15:15:25 GMT -5
I know I'm only 11, and the youngest one here, and you guys more than likely don't care what I think, but I'd like to voice my opinion anyway. I think love is something that most people [quite a lot at any rate] don't know. It's just something you can't explain and don't really know until you're in it. It's like an abyss. You've heard of it, you know of it, but you have know idea what it's like or what it really is until you literally fall in it, and experience it for yourself...no one can tell you what it is, or explain it to you [despite the many, many parents who desperately try to while attempting to teach their kids about sex] until you have experienced it. Well, that's it for now, as you can probably see, I love debating... You are very mature for an 11-year-old...
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Nov 1, 2003 15:49:16 GMT -5
Post by pixie ears on Nov 1, 2003 15:49:16 GMT -5
Well, thank-you ;D
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Nov 1, 2003 15:50:45 GMT -5
Post by Brian on Nov 1, 2003 15:50:45 GMT -5
No problem. The question is, does love come from horomones (in other words, hotness) or, well, personality? Or a mixture of both?
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Nov 1, 2003 15:58:05 GMT -5
Post by Tay Sachs on Nov 1, 2003 15:58:05 GMT -5
K, for an 11 year old you are really mature. Kudos on your good spelling too, I love people who can spell and write in sentences. Anyway, I think real love isn't so much hormones, though as you fall in love with somebody that becomes part of your bonding. Two girls can become best friends and be in love without ever even thinking about sex, as a girl can be in love with a boy without being physically attracted to him... the problem is society has placed it so the words "in love" automatically assume sexual interests.
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Nov 1, 2003 16:04:05 GMT -5
Post by Brian on Nov 1, 2003 16:04:05 GMT -5
D'oh! You have a point there. I love my family, but I don't have horomones towards my parents or my sister (shudders). I guess I, well, love some of my same-gender friends, even though I wouldn't like to use the term, and I sure as life don't have horomones towards them. Same thing with my cat. Here's my new defintion of love: If you love something or someone then you would be beside yourself with sadness if they left you. How's that?
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Nov 1, 2003 16:15:26 GMT -5
Post by pixie ears on Nov 1, 2003 16:15:26 GMT -5
Good definition (sp?). Yeah, I love some of my friends that are the same gender as me, and the ones that I feel that way about, they know it. But I would never be physically/sexually interested int them. And I love my dogs, but, same thing with them.
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Nov 1, 2003 16:19:45 GMT -5
Post by Brian on Nov 1, 2003 16:19:45 GMT -5
Yeah, shame that love now seems to tie only to physical relationships. (By the way, you spelled definition right.)
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Nov 1, 2003 16:59:21 GMT -5
Post by MambaduMal on Nov 1, 2003 16:59:21 GMT -5
There are definitely different types and levels of love. The love you have to have for the person you wish to marry, however, is a tough one, since it's a lot of different types of loves wrapped into one. You need to be somewhat physically attracted to them, so you'll maintain interest in them and love looking at their face every day. You also need to admire them greatly, so you stay with them and respect their thoughts, decisons, and actions. You have to love being with them, talking to them, spending time with them, since you probably will do that a lot in married life. You have to love them in a caring way, so if they're sad or unhappy you're willing to make them feel better. You have to love them for being themselves, not because they're talented or pretty, simply because there's some hidden connection between you. These types of love are all different, and there might be some I've forgotten. The formula for the love of a friend is drastically different than the formula for the love of an attractive celebrity. Once you have the formula, there are different amounts of each variable to work out. (sounds a little too much like math, sorry ) You might love two different friends the same amount but differently, perhaps because you admire one greatly, and the other you enjoy being with greatly. I hope this makes even the slightest inkling of sense to you, because I'm ver proud of myself for coming up with this reply
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Nov 1, 2003 18:56:49 GMT -5
Post by Tay Sachs on Nov 1, 2003 18:56:49 GMT -5
Brilliant definition, Brian. I am using that one from now on. ;D
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Nov 2, 2003 1:01:45 GMT -5
Post by Brian on Nov 2, 2003 1:01:45 GMT -5
Thanks, ShatteredPeach. How do you think liking something differs from loving it?
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Nov 2, 2003 13:30:44 GMT -5
Post by MambaduMal on Nov 2, 2003 13:30:44 GMT -5
That's because your soul mate question is a hard one to answer I remember when I was younger, I thought that there was one and only one "Mr. Right" and that someday I'd find him and we'd go riding off into the sunset together... But now, I think there's more than one "Mr. Right", or soulmate. There has to be at LEAST one. For every person in the world, they have at least one soulmate- some people end up meeting them, some people don't.
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Nov 2, 2003 15:04:25 GMT -5
Post by coffeemate on Nov 2, 2003 15:04:25 GMT -5
Hm, yeah it is hard to answer.
I used to believe in soul mates, and in some way I guess a part of me still does-- but I'm not so sure.
It seems like you can be so sure someone is the "right" one for you, and then you can literally wake up one morning and discover they aren't.
Does that mean you weren't in love or what? I know people change, and I guess you can be in love with the person that they once were but I don't know.
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Nov 2, 2003 21:09:39 GMT -5
Post by katgrrl247 on Nov 2, 2003 21:09:39 GMT -5
I've been in love before but when I first met the guy I didn't have that reaction. He somehow grew on me but it just like dawned on me one day that I was IN love with the guy.. love is weird (: Yeah, that's how it was with me too.. Friends, and then, hey, I think I love him. ^___^ I think the concept of a soul-mate is alright. I think there may be more than one soul-mate for ya, maybe you don't meet him/her... Your soul-mate may change. I don't think we're destined at all. And I think it's nice to think of someone as a soul-mate. But the very words soul-mate classify several of my friends: we've known each other and seen each other through thick and thin, and we're kindred spirits. I think romantic lovin' is somethin totally different though. Oh, and Rocky Horror person, I love your avatar. ^_~ - I may not be much of a man by the light of day, but by night I'm one hell of a lover - Sweet Transvestite
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